As a coach and someone who works with her own coach, you’re probably thinking this is a bit of an odd topic to write a blog on. You could say I’ve drunk the kool-aid. I have. I’ve experienced the difference it can make professionally and personally. I know right to my core that I am a better version of my true self with greater capacities to shape my world in alignment with my values, needs, and aspirations without stress, overwhelm, or fear.

I’m not alone in valuing working with a coach. Plenty of people do and achieve their own transformations. Research at Ashridge Centre for Coaching at Hult University has shown coaching can be positive in unlocking potential, shifting behaviours and releasing blockers – in fact within their trials with professional, qualified coaches, their researchers reported a 95% confidence rate that participants found it beneficial.

So why do some coachees have a less positive experience? 

Motivation matters. Remember when you were little and you were told to clean your plate, otherwise there would be no ice cream? Did you eat that cold soggy vegetable or did you dig your heels in and sulk? 

Coaching is the same. You and only you can choose to enter a coaching arrangement if it is to work. Doing it because someone told you to – whether that’s a loved one, mate or boss – is going to be tricky as you’re trying to please people or going along with it to avoid negative repercussions. Also being made to make rapid ” in the moment” decisions about a coach or their programmes – if you need to sleep on it, do some maths or talk to someone, say so and a professional coach will want you to make the right decision for you.

Similarly, your mindset is key. I wrote about growth mindsets a few blogs back (here and here) and the impact it has on your personal or professional development. Working with a coach can also be impacted by your perceived concerns about what others might think of you working with a coach – it’s a bit “woo woo” out there, only for poor performers or those who lacking in some way and even there’s no proof coaching works. 

If you want to transform your life, you will learn to show up differently, hold your boundaries more effectively and leverage your brilliance without guilt or fear. Crikey, then what will people think? A coach can help you steer a path that works for you and those who are important to you.

For me, the relationship between the coach and client can make or break the outcomes. Chemistry really does count as it takes two to tango. Book a call with any potential coach before working with them. Trust your gut instinct – do you feel you could comfortably tell them anything without judgement or fear? Do you feel the right kind of energy between you? Does this feel like someone you will enjoy spending time with exploring possible tough things with? 

A relatively new corporate client, who I asked why they had decided to work with me over other coaches they met, said “I just felt I could work really well with you and that you would get the best out of me plus we’d have fun along the way. Always the best way to learn.” Frankly, I couldn’t agree more.

If the spark isn’t there, a professional coach will suggest other coaches in their network who would be a better fit, rather than forcing a faux relationship with you.

One confusion I’ve found with potential clients is who they believe does the work and a commitment to fit it in. Of course, a certified coach brings a Mary Poppins’ bag of tools and techniques to your sessions. They can help you navigate new approaches; however you still need to the time and effort in. For example, I might suggest taking 10 minutes at the end of each working day to do a bridging ritual to enhance your access to a Powertype. 

I’ve read how your coach is like the sherpa, who guides you to the top of the mountain – they may carry their bags of wisdom and experience whilst supporting your weight in the tough moments but ultimately, you need to put one foot in front of the other to reach the summit. 

Lastly, you don’t need a coach if you know the exact what, where, when, who and why of your new beginnings. That’s brilliant, crack on and best of luck with it. I really hope you succeed: just one question -who’s going to help you be accountable and face the unexpected on your path?

Hmmm, maybe coaching isn’t such a bad idea? Yes, even when you’ve got it all sorted.

My invite to join my newly refined programme remains open, at an extraordinary discounted price. It’s for you if:

  • – You hide parts of your authentic self to fit in & avoid pain or negative reactions.
  • – You feel like the “square peg” in a round hole.
  • – You are sick & tired of living, working and loving this way
  • – And you want things to change.

Answer yes to those, then I would say you’ve got the motivation, mindset, commitment and a sense of intention as to your desired outcomes. Drop me an email – – and let’s jump on a call and see if we’ve got the right spark of relationship to work together.

Say YES to living, working and loving in aligned authenticity by saying YES to coaching with me.